Emotions and your Relationship

Signs of emotions in your relationshipWhen the 2016 presidential election results seemed to surprise people I was a bit astonished by their surprise. The way the presidential election moved is quite similar to the process of sales. And as you probably know sales are all about relationships.

The one truism about sales is that people make decisions emotionally and then justify them cognitively. In fact they will take in facts and information that support their emotional decision and refute or deny any other facts that are not in line with their emotional decision.

So what does this mean for emotions in your relationship?

It means you need to understand the process of decision making. Good relationship communication both personally and professionally begins with emotional empathy, understanding the other person. When you can understand what the other person is feeling emotionally, what they are drawn to emotionally, then you can have better relationship communication.

But, remember, you have to understand the emotions before you hit them with rational cognitive decision-making. John Gottman, a well known relationship expert, says the couples who are masters at relating START with empathy (emotion) and then move to problem solving (cognition.)

That’s where all the pundits were mistaken about the recent presidential election. They discounted the emotional tide, and focused on the cognitive side as the deciding factor. But emotions will win out , especially in such a charged competition, and in difficult relationship discussions.

Always take into account the emotions in your relationship first.

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  1. I went on my first holiday with a friend last month ,all the time I was there I felt so alone my friend and I had fallen out. My husband was horrible on all the phone calls since coming home has subjected me to horrible vile abuse been called a slag slut every name you can think of ,he said he would not be like this and wanted me to go even saying I deserved it the break ,everyday he has made some horrible comment,I have done nothing wrong at all except speak to people we both know from holidaying there it’s been horrible ,I have put every effort in to our marriage and sex life and still. Get abuse I think time is up on our 25 year old marriage now I can’t carry on like this I am at my whits ends

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